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Deceased Loved Ones for the Month of August
Sherry Breslawski
Frances Cassata
Joseph Cerame
Maria Ciardi
Nick Cisternino
Thomas Derooy
Linda Fusilli
William Greinke
Norma Haines
Philip Insalaco
Thomas Leo
Carl Lombard
Rose Marciano
Herb Mildbredt
Edith Montagno
Josephine Moriello
Josephine Palmer
Emma Serna
Ann Spinelli
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THE LEGACY
Words of Encouragement
In this sad world of ours, sorrow comes to all...It comes with bitterest agony...Perfect relief is not possible, except with time.
You cannot now realize that you will ever feel better...And yet this is a mistake. You are sure to be happy again, To know this, which is certainly true, Will make you come less miserable now. I have experienced enough to know what I say.
Abraham Lincoln
Three of Abraham Lincoln's sons died: Edward, age 4; William, age 11; and Thomas, age 18.
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Grief: Some Common Sense Answers
Grief: Some Common Sense Answers
Q. "I dread the thought of upcoming holidays, anniversaries, birthdays and other family events. How can I deal with these occasions?"
A. Joyous occasions and holidays, such as Thanksgiving and Christmas, are especially hard for the bereaved because they tend to magnify their sense of loneliness after a loss. It is common for grievers to dread such times, but usually the anticipation of the event is worse than the day itself. Generally, it is beneficial to participate in family celebrations and festivities because you will gain support and fellowship by interacting with family and friends, which can be more helpful than being alone.
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HOUSEHOLD TIPS
Kitchens:
Dripping Pipes: (elbows) Wrapping the pipe with duct tape will save it for a little while longer.
Drains: Using a restaurant brush may help unclog drains.
Light Bulbs: To save energy do not use any light bulb over 60 watts in your ceiling fixtures.
Electrical Outlets: Placing rubber pads between the wall and the outlet will conserve heat.
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THOUGHTS
Missing You
by
Edna T. Burch
Westland, Michigan
Each loss is very different,
The pain is so severe.
Will I ever stop missing
This one I loved so dear?
Good times we had together,
The moments that we shared
We didn't have to tell each other
How much we really cared.
I never dreamed you'd go away,
Never thought of sorrow.
So sure you'd always be here,
Took for granted each tomorrow.
Now my life is all confused
Since you have gone away.
You took a part of me
And for help I daily pray.
But when God sent you to me
He never said you're mine,
That I could keep you always-
Only borrowed for a time.
Now He's called you home,
I'm sad and I shed tears.
Yet I'm glad He loaned you to me
And we had these many years.
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WHAT TO SAY...WHAT NOT TO SAY
What to say...What not to say
When we are reaching out to the bereaved it is often common to feel helpless. It is sometimes hard to know what to say that might prove comforting to the bereaved person. Often in our discomfort we fall back on cliches. While well meant, they are often not helpful and sometimes anger producing for the grieving person.
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PLEASE DO NOT SAY:
- It will take two or three months to get over your grief.
- Your grief will lessen in time.
- You need to get on with your life.
BECAUSE:
These types of statements put limits on a person's grief. Each of us needs to grieve in our own way and in our own time.
SAY INSTEAD:
- I hope others are not trying to hurry you through your grief.
- This must be a very hard time for you.
- I have heard that each person grieves in their own way and their own time.
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